Test of true Friendship

In life one meets and makes many friends. Some remain acquaintances with whom we share pleasantries. Childhood friends mature and remain for life or are not traceable. Fair weather friends are the ones with whom we can party, watch a movie, or go shopping with, exactly for the sake of company.

True friendship proves for itself with life’s situations. One can make friends at any age. Marriage too is about friendship and so is rearing kids. Ever felt that sudden desire to call your best friend? Did you felt better after crying over the phone and talking to your friend about some silly problem? Elated feelings and sadness needs to be shared.

A friend corrects you when you wear the wrong make up, compliments you at that writing skill you have, encourages you when you try out a recipe (ignoring the excess salt), cares for you by walking the extra mile, takes you to a movie sensing you are amiss and is strict with you when you go overboard. These are the tests of friendship. As you sit in solitude, look at your fingers and count your friends, you will be amazed to find only a few.

Friendship does not restrict itself to rules of gender, age, class, beauty and even distance. The inclination to communicate is essential. Holding grudges and taking pot shots only spoils a friendship. One also needs to be magnanimous by accepting the short comings of a friend. This is a major adjustment and accept a friend as he/she is. Suggest but do not expect him/her to comply with your standards.

There is only failure when one tries to be a please-all. Compromise but also effectively clarify. When one projects an unfazed exterior and in mind goes through a gamut of negative feelings, that friendship will be short-lived.

Not by money, looks or time, but by truth is what friendship grows. In present times where one is exulted by so many things, there occurs a paucity of time. Excuses stem from this and many a friendship silently die.

Make time for a pet, your child, your spouse, and never forget to make a friend feel special. You may have missed the birthday but be there for a friend when the path is not even. Giving a shoulder to cry on is a temporary support. Be solid like a rock to tide away the storms that test the friendship.

These all I’m learning…

And I guess, I am just missing my true friendship!…….

But still thankful for the presence of my other true friendship(s)!…..

A Love of Life...

Hi, everyone! I'm not so sure how to begin this, but it sure is, nerve - shattering to do this again... I first started blogging almost two years ago. I only got to maintain it for barely a year... What I am feeling right now is not even comparable to the exciting and just light-hearted days back then. I never had a purpose or goal, only just for the Fun of it!... Until, one day people were starting to read and even write comments, i gained friends and a minimal of followers and eventually "it took me".

The events that happened to me for the last 2 years that I'm not in cyberspace, made me decide to blog again and share you all readers, the many wonderful, adventurous, sometimes dark and painful life i have been going through... as a wife, and as a mother.

Life indeed offers us endless opportunities for us to experience the full spectrum of emotion. From the occurrence of a 'new life' or perhaps a spectacular SUNSET, we feel anything from happiness, to wonder, to a sense of fulfillment. Unfortunately, from time to time, we also feel the hold of pain and disappointment. At times the intensity of it can be debilitating.

It is said that time heals all wounds but that is not always the case. Yes, time may allow the initial pain to dissipate. But the effects of it may not completely disappear. It is not uncommon for our difficult experiences to color our perception of how our lives really are. Some of us carry our pain like a cloak and allow it to become our integral part of our characters.

One can claim to be a victim of adversity and operate from that perspective. On the other hand, one can choose to extract something of value from the difficulty. Either way, there is always a lesson to be learned with every experience, good or bad, though it may not provide a reason for misfortune. My recent difficult experience taught me so much.....on life, family, love, respect, humility and most especially acceptance of things i am no control of. These lessons incidentally led me to discovering an attribute i never knew i possessed...Strength, Tenacity, Compassion, Patience and Integrity. It is when we seek the lesson that the pain is lessened.

To those who make my time difficult...THANK YOU for you help me grow. To those who make each of my day a challenge...THANK YOU for you help me build my strength and character.

Test..mic..test..mic